Men Doing the Right Things with the Wrong Women: Understanding Social Dynamics

In today’s blog post, we’ll delve into a fascinating topic—**why men often do the right things with the wrong women**. This principle applies to both men and women, but we’ll focus on men in this episode. Stay tuned for how this applies to women in future posts!

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Understanding Perceived Attractiveness 🤔

In the social dynamics arena, perceived attractiveness holds a significant weight.

Clarification: The Numbers Game
– A “six” is someone you could take or leave—basically a neutral interest.
– A “nine” stands for someone you are really interested in.

It’s critical to understand this distinction. For men, physical attractiveness plays a big role, but it’s not the only factor.

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The Approach Strategy in Bars 🍻

You’re at a bar, and you see a “six” at the bar stool and a “nine” in the corner.

Psychological Barriers to Approaching Nines
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Reality Check
– A “six” may have similar dating standards as a “nine.”
– A “six” rejecting you will hurt more because you assumed it was a safe bet.

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Confidence is Key 🗝️

When approaching a “six,” men often feel more confident because they think they’re the more attractive option.

Behavioral Differences
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This confidence might come off as indifference, but women find it incredibly attractive.

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Sexual Aggressiveness vs. Emotional Disinterest 💋

Behavior During Interaction
– Men are often more sexually aggressive with a “six”.
– They communicate sexual intent more quickly, move the encounter toward a sexual opportunity, and see how she responds.

Outcome Management
– If she’s not receptive, he cuts his losses and moves on.
– If she is, he can opt to act on it or not.

In interactions, men who step on the gas tend to reach their goals more quickly.

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Post-Encounter Behavior 📱

Post-Sexual Encounter Dynamics
– Men rarely invest emotionally in the aftermath if it’s not someone they’re highly attracted to.
– They don’t text soon, and may even think about when the woman will leave.

This behavior often prompts the woman to reach out, looking for more meaningful interaction and relationship potential.

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Why Does This Happen with the Ones I’m Not Interested In? 🤨

Many men wonder why women they’re not interested in pursue them more actively.

Effective Behaviors
– The techniques used to pull a “six” are equally effective for a “nine.”
– Both are women and respond similarly to confidence and indifference.

The problem? Men’s perception skews their behavior.

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Behavioral Shifts with Highly Desirable Women 💃

When men meet someone they’re genuinely excited about, they often sabotage their chances by:

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None of these behaviors are effective because the same rules apply to both “sixes” and “nines”.

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The Pursuer vs. The Pursued Dynamic 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♀️

The Fundamental Issue
– Over-investing interest and emotion in a woman makes her the “adored” while you become the “adorer” or pursuer.
– Women often instinctively run from a pursuer, driven by deep-seated survival instincts.

Psycho-Survival Instincts
– It’s more adaptive for women to run from a false positive (someone pursuing them too hard) than to stay and ignore a false negative (someone they’re unsure of).

Understanding this dynamic is crucial to avoid pursuing women too aggressively and driving them away.

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Maintaining Emotional Control 🎯

Keeping a Tight Rein on Emotions
– Meeting a woman you’re excited about is like getting pocket aces in poker after a string of bad hands.
– Jumping up and down will blow your opportunity.

Follow the System
– Stick to your system—do what works with a “six” and apply it to a “nine.”

Conduct your experiment. The successful behaviors with a “six” work with a “nine” if you can manage your emotional reactions.

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Understanding Your Social and Emotional Dynamics 🌐

By following these insights and strategies, you can understand why your behavior may not be as effective with women you genuinely desire. Remember, confidence, controlled emotion, and strategic indifference are critical in maintaining a favorable social dynamic. Consistency in approach, irrespective of the woman’s perceived attractiveness, will yield better results in your social and romantic engagements.

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My dudes, treat the “nine” like the “six”, and you’ll see better success. Your perception is what changes, not their humanity.